7|30 Short Conversation with Strangers. What Uber rides can teach us? Part 1/3

Late on a Friday afternoon, I landed in NYC where I scrambled off the plane and into an Uber. That’s where I met Bobby.

In typical New York fashion it was bumper to bumper and what proceeded was a 90-minute conversation that stemmed from Steve Jobs and Amazon to love and his recent marriage.

Bobby, in his mid-thirties, was a high school drop out that had recently got over his drug addiction. Then working his arse off he bought a small plot of land in his hometown in Florida. Having succeeded more than he thought possible he decided to go bigger. Thus he came to the Big Apple.

Rough but earnest, Bobby wasn’t necessarily up on current events and knew nothing of Apple or Amazon, but he had heard the name Steve Jobs once before. Shocked I delighted in educating him about the world of tech.

‘Did you say Trillion Dollars?’

‘Yes, just last week they hit it.’

‘Oh my lord, one-hundredth of that would make me happy.’

Although math wasn’t his strongest suit, he meant one million dollars, which is 0.000001 (one millionth) of a Trillion but, I got his point.

What he did know was women. Walking me through his many relationships and the turmoils that came with them. Ending with his now wife, who he was about to go overseas for the first time with and he was ecstatic. He then asked my age.

Looking up from my phone I obliged, excited at what I said, he took my answer and rightfully so, as an indication that I am terrible with women. He went into the advice he wishes he knew years earlier.

‘I fucked up a lot of relationships, with a lot of girls… and… If I’m being honest it was on purpose. I was a selfish bastard. Selfish, Selfish, Selfish.’

‘How’s that?’

‘Well… I’d say things I didn’t mean, you know cause, you don’t want to hurt them, but I was hurting them more by lying, by pretending. You know.’

We sat silent for a few minutes. Bobby broke the silence with a calm- well thought out.

‘All you’ve got is your word.’

Staring out the window I nodded in agreeance. Bobby who couldn’t see my acknowledgment made sure I understood his advice.

‘Like that Steve Jobs guy, he stuck to his word didn’t he? Dinging the universe and all.’

‘He certainly did.’

‘Relationships are no different, you know… only say what you mean, and it will all work out alright. That’s what I do now, and I’ve now got a girl that has done right by me.’

In the words of Bobby, the uber driver… ‘All you’ve got is your word.’